Better Times

Matt wasn’t as clueless as everyone seemed to think. He knew that Mom was working herself to a very thin thread and that she didn’t sleep at night even if there were never any bags under her eyes. That Terry was running all kinds of errands that would send Mom into cardiac arrest if she found out.

He knew that their family hadn’t really fallen apart until Dad had died even though their parents had been divorced. Because the divorce had felt temporary, like it was only there because it had to be, but wouldn’t last forever.

It had because Dad had died.

Nothing felt temporary anymore. He couldn’t let it, just in case something that was supposed to be temporary (like the divorce) became something permanent (like Dad’s death). So he had to make sure that he was okay with the consequences of his actions because it was possible that they would be permanent consequences.


Confusing Lyrics – Ramble-y Reminiscence 4

What a laugh it would have been, if Daddy had only seen Mommy kissing Santa Claus last night!

Spent most of my childhood thinking this song was a prelude to a long divorce process.

And Mom and Dad can hardly wait for school to start again…

I wondered why it would matter to ‘Mom and Dad’ to want school to start again. Mine had work during the holidays and my elder siblings were the ones who watched us during Winter Break and counted down the days ’til it was over.

I didn’t understand it then, but I understand it now…

There are a lot of different songs that made no sense to me until I was an adult.

What are your family’s holiday traditions?

Does switching which parent’s house we’re at each year count?


Women’s Intuition

I have no idea what this means. I’ve heard it referenced nearly all my life, but whatever it is has continued to elude me. Any kind of ability, in my experience, has been equal between men and women when it comes to being able to intuit something. In fact, my youngest brother is a lot better at intuiting anything than just about anyone else in the family (barring Mom).

So the label of this ability has never made any sense to me.

Does exactly what it says on the tin.

Really, it doesn’t do what it says.

This post was brought to you by the Light and Shade Challenge for Friday as well as a bit of glancing through my drafts folder.

Life Happens – Thankful Thursday

If we’re  brave enough to not be victims.

–Must Be This Tall To Ride

I’ve had a lot happen to me in my life. I’ve had a lot happen to my family and not just me, but when I read the blog post this morning called How To Never Have Bad Days, the above quote just jumped out at me.

I’ve never thought of it that way. Things are going to happen to you, to me. Life is going to happen.

It’s something that my family always says when we end up being the one having to wait any amount of time for something. An hour’s wait for an appointment because the doctor got called away that morning to an emergency? Life happens. Friend and/or family had to cancel at the last minute plans that were months in the making because of something else? Life happens.

I am a firm believer that Life is going to happen at the most inconvenient time whenever it feels like it, because no matter what we try the simple truth is that we are not in control. So Life is going to happen and you just have to roll with it (or not, it’s up to you.)

But having things happen and being a victim of circumstance is not really the same thing. You are only a victim if you allow yourself to be. This does not mean that nothing bad will ever happen to you because of the actions or inaction of someone else.

You don’t have to be a victim.

It is your choice.

So today, I am grateful for the blogs of others and the things that they teach me because there are some things that I’m not going to think of, but that doesn’t mean someone else won’t.

Make sure to read the original Thankful Thursday as well.


What makes a hero?

Someone who is selfless?

Someone who is selfish?

Someone who stands and fights or waits for a moment to make a substantial change?

Is it someone who lives to the best of their ability doing what they believe is right? Or someone who lived most of their life doing wrong before having a life-changing moment and only then doing what is right to make up for all those ‘wasted years?’

Are any years wasted?

Your past does not define who you are, but it does shape you. You can control that shaping to some degree when you decide what to take with you and what to let go.

Even then, it’s not quite so easy as I would make it sound with my words.

Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler.

–Albert Einstein (1879 – 1955)


There are people who are good people, but not heroes. There are heroes that are good heroes, but not good people.

Don’t take from someone else, what you yourself have lost.
In giving me a chance, I won’t let you down!
Getting one more moment to make my choice
Not giving up no matter how many times I fall down.
It’s not so simple as people make it sound,
There is more to doing right than just being right.
You don’t live just once, you live multiple times because each life can be a moment.

For me, when you give others moments of dignity, moments where they can be more than what they were, that is when you can become a hero.

This post was doubly inspired by Dungeon Prompts and the Light and Shade Challenge.