Nothing as an excuse

Trust is not something to be taken lightly. It is also something that can be easily won, but only for some. There are others who make you work for their trust, whether or not you have done something in the past to warrant such behavior. I’ve heard that trust once lost is not easily recovered, but in my experience that has also varied from person to person.

When I think of trust I am often reminded of something I have run across: the argument that is often used when infidelity is discovered.

He/She meant nothing to me. It was a mistake and it meant nothing!

The only response I’ve ever thought about, should this excuse be given to me, is: Really? That’s what you’re going with? It meant nothing? Breaking my heart meant nothing?

Worse excuse ever.

I can buy the mistake, because it was a mistake. It was something that should not have happened, but that it really didn’t mean anything? I think that part of it makes it worse, because it implies that such a decision, a decision that will kill a relationship at its heart, meant nothing to you. That I meant nothing and there was no consideration at all. The other person, or maybe whatever they stand for, they have to meanĀ something to you in order for this decision to be attractive at all.

Don’t try to pass it off as ‘nothing.’


Written for last Friday’s FreeWriteFriday challenge.

http://kellieelmore.com/2014/01/24/fwf-free-write-friday-trust/