That’s What I Am

By looking away, am I taking part?
Under pressure, will I become what I hate?
Look in the mirror and think about my own fate,
Listen to my heart as well as to my head and
Yearn to be the kind of person who stands above the rest.
 

Human Dignity + Compassion = PEACE

–Mr. Simon, “That’s What I Am”
 
Variety is something always found here.
Innocence does not have a mold,
Compassion is not always learned there.
To decide if you will stand up for yourself
Is not the only question that will be uttered.
Many find their path in trying to escape.
 
Life is about time, opportunity and choices… Sometimes you just need someone to tell you that you can.
–Mr. Simon, “That’s What I Am”

This was doubly inspired by the movie “That’s What I Am” and also by Cheryl over at Stop the Stigma.

Life Happens – Thankful Thursday

If we’re  brave enough to not be victims.

–Must Be This Tall To Ride

I’ve had a lot happen to me in my life. I’ve had a lot happen to my family and not just me, but when I read the blog post this morning called How To Never Have Bad Days, the above quote just jumped out at me.

I’ve never thought of it that way. Things are going to happen to you, to me. Life is going to happen.

It’s something that my family always says when we end up being the one having to wait any amount of time for something. An hour’s wait for an appointment because the doctor got called away that morning to an emergency? Life happens. Friend and/or family had to cancel at the last minute plans that were months in the making because of something else? Life happens.

I am a firm believer that Life is going to happen at the most inconvenient time whenever it feels like it, because no matter what we try the simple truth is that we are not in control. So Life is going to happen and you just have to roll with it (or not, it’s up to you.)

But having things happen and being a victim of circumstance is not really the same thing. You are only a victim if you allow yourself to be. This does not mean that nothing bad will ever happen to you because of the actions or inaction of someone else.

You don’t have to be a victim.

It is your choice.

So today, I am grateful for the blogs of others and the things that they teach me because there are some things that I’m not going to think of, but that doesn’t mean someone else won’t.

Make sure to read the original Thankful Thursday as well.

Instead…

Who says, who says you’re not worth it?
Who says you’re not perfect
Who says you’re the only one whose hurting
Trust me, that’s the price of beauty,
Who says you’re not pretty?
Who says you’re not beautiful?
Who says? –“Who Says” by Selena Gomez
 

Why were people so heartless? So eager to cast someone, anyone down into the dirt and mock them as they flung stones? Why did they only feel better about themselves when they were destroying someone else?

It didn’t always end in death. Oh no, it was far more fun if their victim lived on, that way they didn’t have to find another to trap in the entanglement of their chosen entertainment.

Even those that had once been in the dirt were eager enough to squash someone else beneath them so that they knew that, for all their pains, there was someone worse off.

What would it take to stop this cycle? To change it so that pulling someone up and out of the mud would make you feel better instead of shoving them back down in it.

Is it even worth it some days?

Only you, yourself, can know the answer. It’s not the same for everyone, because some people just need time away from it all to rest. To step back and do something else, worry about anything else, because they’ve been int he trenches so long, that they’re starting to forget that anything else ever existed in the first place, let alone that they can make it.

In the end all it takes is time. Time that you use yo out-stubborn, outlast and out-believe that your way is the correct way in the first place. Because there’s no other way to do it.

Not that I’ve seen.

This mini-rant was inspired first by a post from Oliana that I read today, Sense of Loss, but the rant isn’t just about what was contained in her post. It was further pushed out because of this week’s Three Word Wednesday prompt.

There are many, many, many different ways to hurt someone, to push them down.

If only we had more ways to pull them back up instead.

Point of View

Very often I am afraid,
I know that I am always alone.
Can’t anyone see that I need help?
This isn’t going to come out at home…
I wonder just what I have done?
Must have been something to deserve this.
Whatever happened to the Golden Rule?
Because I have nothing else going for me,
Unless I take it myself.
Lower myself to this pitiful display,
Let me use this to feel better about myself.
You won’t tell anyone, they won’t believe.
It must have expired long ago…
But no one else is doing anything…
You can’t expect me to try if they won’t!
Stop looking at me as if this is my fault!
Totally overblowing my role.
At least I’m not the one to through the punch,
Never did I say the words,
Don’t look at me when they limp away!
Ever think that they should stop it themselves?
Remember that I stood by and did nothing I will forever…

When I first saw the prompt, I was reminded of two things:

1) When I was a little girl, everyone got a turn on the swing we were all pushing like a bench swing, but every time my turn came around, I was pushed to the ground and ignored. There were only a few that did any actual pushing, but no one else would even look me in the eyes when they quickly pushed the line forward once more.

2) Even though she’d been bullied mercilessly and far worse than I ever had, my niece jumped into a ditch that was flooding to grab out a little girl she’d only met that day even though she wasn’t the strongest swimmer. She never made all that many friends in the neighborhood while we lived there because most would bully her or stand by and do nothing, but she’d stand up for them or dive into the river for their siblings anyway.

At one point or another in our lives, we will each stand in one of the places in this scenario. The question we have to ask ourselves is: Will we continue those actions?

Will you allow yourself to be pushed down over and over before you walk away?

Will you continue to bully once you realize with horror that, that is exactly what you are doing?

Will you continue to watch on as another is degraded for whatever reason or excuse you were using to justify your previous behavior?

Will the answer you give now stay the same, or will it change?

Prompt: http://tracesofthesoul.wordpress.com/2014/05/15/reflections-shared-tracesofthesoul-prompt-2-silent-witnesses-bystanders/